The fourteen major stars of Zi Wei Dou Shu determine your basic behavioral patterns in romance — not who you'll end up with. But how you love. The Life Palace's ruling star is your own romantic style; the Spouse Palace is where you see what kind of partner suits you. This article clarifies the former first.
Quick Overview of the Romance Styles of the Fourteen Main Stars
Each of the 14 main stars has its own relationship pattern. some date like going to war, some like....
How each ruling star behaves in romance is often quite different from how it behaves in career. Honestly, some stars are very strong at work but a disaster zone in relationships. Broadly, there are three categories:
The influence of the fourteen major stars in romance often needs to be placed in the context of the entire chart before its true strength can be seen.
Active type: Zi Wei treats romance like an audition — standards extremely high, unwilling to settle. Qi Sha charges forward once in love but won't say sweet words. Po Jun's romance is always dramatic — won't stop until something breaks. Tan Lang is the biggest peach blossom star, naturally magnetic — Tan Lang's peach blossom is "carnal," completely different from Lian Zhen's "spiritual" peach blossom. Wu Qu's mouth isn't sweet but actions are solid, expressing love by earning and providing.
Passive type: Tai Yin is gentle and delicate but easily lacks a sense of security, needing the other party to take initiative. Tian Tong enjoys the feeling of being taken care of — very sweet in romance but afraid of conflict. Tian Ji thinks too much in relationships. Analyzes itself all the way out of the relationship. Tian Liang unconsciously plays the caregiver role. When The other party is too dependent, it becomes exhausting.
It is for this reason that when learning about the fourteen major stars in romance, mastering the foundational rules builds a more solid foundation for judgment than memorizing individual cases.
Chameleon type: Tian Xiang's romantic pattern is heavily influenced by environment —"meeting goodness, becoming good. Meeting evil, becoming evil" — whoever it's with, it becomes like them. Ju Men's mouth is sharp but heart is soft — always wins arguments but feels regret afterward. Lian Zhen's love is extreme and deep, with spiritual connection more important than physical. Tai Yang gives unconditionally — burns itself to illuminate others, but tends to neglect its own needs. Tian Fu is steady and conservative in romance, not very good at saying nice things, but will absolutely never let you go hungry.
Why Your Romance Pattern Always Repeats
The romantic style of the Life Palace's ruling star is deeply ingrained. A surgeon friend has Wu Qu and Qi Sha in Mao Palace ruling her Life Palace. The combination with the heaviest isolated-and-harsh quality. She is decisive and swift in the operating room, but in three relationships, every partner said she was "too hard." She laughed and said:"Hands accustomed to surgical knives have a very hard time learning to gently hold another person." Wu Qu's metallic quality makes her unstoppable at work, but that same hardness becomes an obstacle in romance. After she started accepting that "not everything needs to be as precise as surgery," things in romance slowly began to turn around.
Recognizing your own romantic pattern is the first step
Recognizing your own romantic pattern is the first step. Next, look at your Spouse Palace's ruling star. It will tell you what type of partner suits you best and what themes you'll encounter in marriage. The Life Palace's ruling star is you. The Spouse Palace's ruling star is your partner and mode of interaction — only by pairing both sides is the picture complete.
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